Lesson #18

1SAMUEL 17:55-58 – 18:1-9
Lesson #18
DEALING WITH JEALOUSY

• Memory Verse: Proverbs 23:17

• Read 1Sam 17:55-58
• Read 1Sam 18:1-9
• After the slaying of Goliath, David goes to live at court.
• The toughest trials are just after victory and often occur in relationships with other people.
• What personal relationships do we see here?
• David and Saul:

David’s Actions	David’s Attitudes	Saul’s Actions	Saul’s Attitudes
He was brought before King Saul (17:58)	Humility	A lack of recognition of David (17:58)	Pride
He obeyed (18:5)	Loyalty	He kept David from going home (18:2)	Distrust
		He gave David a military command (18:5)	A spirit of murder
		He showed his anger toward David (18:8)	Jealousy

 

• David and Jonathan:

Jonathan’s Actions	Jonathan’s Attitudes
He made a covenant (18:3)	Love Commitment
It was a unilateral covenant, binding on one person only
He gave gifts (18:4)	Love

• David and the people

The People’s Actions	The People’s Attitudes
They accepted David’s leadership (18:5)	Trust
They gave credit to Saul and David (18:6-7)	Honor Gratitude

• Jonathan is a prefigure of the Holy Spirit.
• He stays close in relationship.
• He expresses love.
• He expresses commitment.
• He affirms a covenant relationship.
• He his loyal.
• He is a friend.
• He brings gifts.
• Garments = The Holy Spirit gives the believer the righteousness of Christ.
• Sword = The Holy Spirit gives the believer weapons for spiritual warfare (the Sword of the Spirit)
• Bow = The Holy Spirit gives aggressive weapons for battle.
• Belt = The Holy Spirit gives power and authority to the believer.
• Insights into jealousy:
• Jealousy is a spiritual problem.
• Jealousy begins when you notice people responding more to others than to you. (5)
• Jealousy develops when others prosper. (5-6)
• Jealousy is nurtured by misunderstanding. (6)
• Jealousy exaggerates. (8)
• Fear feeds jealousy. (8)
• How to fight jealousy:
• Recognize it as a spiritual problem.
• Repent of the sin of jealousy.
• Know who you are in Christ.
• Study the Word of God.
• Stay close to God in trust.
• Know to whom you should please.
• Rejoice with those who rejoice (Rom 12:15)
• Keep communication open in your relationships.
• Keep your priorities right.
• Discuss it with the one involved.
• Pray for God to bless the other person.
• Find some scriptures dealing with envy:
• Pro 14:30
• Pro 22:17
• Rom 1:28-32
• Tit 3:3-7
• Read 1Sam 18:10-11
• Review the past sins of pride, presumption and compromise.
• Add to the list the sin of anger and jealousy in a spirit of murder.
• Saul’s disobedience was that he refused to give up the kingdom. (1Sam 15:28)
• The more Saul saw the kingdom slipping away from him, the more tightly he held on to it.
• The evil spirit from God.
• Read Jam 1:17
• If every good gift and perfect gift comes from God, how do we explain this evil spirit from God?
• The “good gift” refers to the act of giving.
• The “perfect gift” refers to the gift itself.
• God knows what to give, to whom to give it, and when is the best time for the ultimate good to come about.
• God allowed the evil spirit to come upon Saul in order to cause Saul’s reign to come to an end.
• God gave him over to his own lusts.
• This was an evil spirit used by God to bring trial and testing to David through Saul for the purposes of maturing David.
• How can the believer tell a message from God as opposed to one from Satan?
• The criteria for judging any prophecy from God:
• =1= By their fruits you shall know them. (Mat 7:16-20)
• Is there an anointing on the message? (1Joh 2:20)
• =2= Does it glorify Christ? (Rev 19:10 1Cor 12:3 1Joh 4:1-2 Joh 16:13-14)
• =3= Does it agree with scripture? (2Tim 3:16 1Sam 8:19-20)
• =4= Is it 100% accurate? (Deu 18:20-22)
• Some fulfilled prophecies are not of God. (Deu 13:1-3 1Sam 18:10)
• =5= Does the message produce liberty or bondage? (2Cor 4:13 Rom 8:15)
• =6= Does the Holy Spirit bears witness to you? (1Joh 2:20)
• =7= Is there a consistency and a confirmation? (Deu 18:20-21 2Cor 13:1 Act 13:2)
• Was Saul guilty or would we excuse him by reason of insanity?
• Read 1Sam 18:12-16
• Other truths from this passage:
• =1= There is an evil spirit of prophecy (18:10)
• This makes it necessary to test the prophetic word
• Knowing you are in God’s will under His covenant brings great peace irregardless of the situation.
• Wisdom and knowledge of God’s ways and obedience o them produces assurance, success, and prosperity.
• =2= Peace in fearful situations.
• Why was Saul afraid?
• It was because David behaved himself wisely (14-15)
• It was because the Lord was with David (12, 14)
• =3= Wisdom and knowledge of God’s ways.
• What are some of God’s ways?
• =1= Give and it shall be given to you.
• =2= Be a servant and God will raise you up.
• =3= Seek first God’s kingdom and He shall add everything else.
• =4= Meditate on the Word of God and He will give you success.
• =5= A righteous life produces righteousness.
• Read 1Sam 18:17-30
• Manipulation:
• Read 1Sam 17:25
• The reward for killing Goliath was marriage to Saul’s oldest daughter, but Saul gave Merap to someone else.
• Notice that David did not press for the promised reward.
• What was Saul’s motive for giving such a reward?
• The manipulation to kill David by the hand of the Philistines since David had no bride price.
• Saul’s word meant nothing.
• Lying and manipulation go together.
• The truth about manipulation::
• Manipulation has a selfish ulterior motive. Even if we justify it with a right and good reason, it will always produce a negative result.
• Deception and manipulation are a work of the flesh nature. (Mar 7:21-23)
• Application:
• Discussion:

What are some examples of Christian manipulation?

HOMEWORK
1SAMUEL 19
This is a self-study. Please do not send homework answers to the teacher forcorrection.

• Application of 1Sam 18
• In prayer, examine your heart for seeds of jealousy. If you find any, write the problem here and follow the principles of how to fight jealousy.

• Application for 1Sam 19
• Read 1Sam 19:1-7
• From this passage, what are the characteristics of a friend?
• Read 1Sam 19:8-17
• Contrast Michal’s friendship to David with that of Jonathan’s to David.
• What do you learn about the character of Michal?
• Read Psa 59
• How do you explain David’s prayer for his enemies, “consume them in wrath” in light of a New Testament Christian attitude?

• Memory Verse: Psalms 59:17